The Brief: "We are not the same" memes play with the concept of competing for a crush's attention.
Popular on Twitter, “we are not the same” memes consist of self-drags and actual roasts between people competing for romantic partners. The general script of this meme goes “you’re in their DM’s, I’m ______. We are not the same.” The premise of this is that while one person is sliding into their crush’s DM’s, the other is much closer to them.
While it’s based on a serious insult the most popular iterations of this meme involve jokes about unhealthy attachment styles, hyper-intense crushes, and stalking. This meme format has also served as a template for allusions to literature, film, music, and more from Phantom Of The Opera to The Great Gatsby to Parasite.
you’re in his dms, i’m in his mind when he listens to frank ocean. we are not the same.
— amanda (@amandasuquisupa) December 3, 2019
ur in her dms I’m on her last nerve
we are not the same
— The Truth (@MikeeKhoury) December 5, 2019
A Spotify wrapped meme from Kehlani:
ur in her dm’s, i’m in her spotify wrapped as her artist of the decade we are not the same
— Kehlani (@Kehlani) December 6, 2019
you are in her house pretending to be an english tutor, i am in her underground bomb shelter stealing food every few nights and traumatizing her youngest child on his birthday. we are not the same
— YOU WILL BE VINDICATED AND I WILL HAVE RABIES (@sewerdad) December 2, 2019
you follow her on ig i follow her home every night we are not the same
— perc nowitzki (@ogmaxb) December 4, 2019
you’re in her DMs I bought a house in West Egg so that I could stare at the green light at the end of her dock we are not the same
— Brandon Pelar (@BrandonDPelar) December 4, 2019
ur in her dms, i’d rather throw myself into a volcano than see a picture of her beautiful face because i will never kiss it again we are not the same!!!
— Snail Mail (@Snailmailband) December 2, 2019
You’re the pageboy. I had a phantom blackmail the producers of this opera to cast me in the role of the Countess. We are not the same.
— Ira Madison III (@ira) December 5, 2019
Watch out for those sleep paralysis demons…
you’re in his dms but i’m his sleep paralysis demon. we are not the same.
— ✧ (@sadsexting) December 3, 2019
you’re in her DMs she’s in my chef’s hat controlling my every move we are NOT the same
— ariel meddles (@cishetman) December 1, 2019
You are in his replies. I'm asking him a series of riddles before I will let him cross my bridge. We are not the same.
— Roxi Horror 💀🌸 (@roxiqt) December 3, 2019
you’re in her dms. i’m the reason she cut bangs. we are not the same.
— 𝒷𝒶𝒷𝓎 , (@SluttyAesthetic) December 6, 2019
You’re in her DMs I’m clogging her toilet we are not the same
— Sir Doctor Professor (@of_maIice) December 4, 2019
Variations of these memes diverge from the romantic competition genre to other insults and comparisons.
you skip past everyone's "spotify wrapped" stories, i look at each one intently and proceed to analyze them as a person. we are not the same
— morgan dondlinger (@morganlanaee) December 5, 2019
you peaked in high school and i never peaked. we are not the same
— rat boy (@jnudey) December 4, 2019
we both uninstall twitter during exams but you study and i use the browser to tweet instead. we are not the same.
— moonluvr69 (@rvmantics) December 1, 2019
Reminiscent of the “some of y’all have never…and it shows” Twitter memes, “we’re not the same” memes include callouts, bragging, and bizarre humor.